Life is composed of moments that can change everything, for better or worse. A terrible accident takes place in mere seconds, and yet the tragic outcome of that changes an entire community forever. But in the same amount of time, vows can be exchanged and two people become intertwined in each other's lives in the most joyous of ways.
It's so ironic, how you can look to one corner and see laughter and smiles, while right on the other side tears are being shed. This may seem unjust, but the duality of such extreme situations brings hope. The world will always continue, and life will always go on, no matter how tragic one event is.
The sad moments never get easy, but keeping in mind that there are good days to come certainly doesn't hurt. Every night brings a bright day. The cycle is endless- some people just spend more time in one phase or another.
Weddings are celebrated and babies grow up. Relationships end and people get sick. Sometimes I get angry because it seems wrong to celebrate anything during times of pain. But celebrating life may be even more important during times of strife. Granted, the two don't always coincide for the same people, but we are all connected, and our celebrations and losses ripple out, touching everyone we know.
It isn't right or wrong- that's just how the world works. There is always good to balance negative. And for every happy occasion, there is another less fortunate event happening elsewhere. It probably isn't some set system based on checks and balances, meant to keep the universe even. It just happens that wonderful and horrible moments are constantly occurring.
It is essential that we find beauty in all the calm moments and hold on to hope through the tough times. Because life keeps chugging along, whether we want it to or not. One minute can be full of joy and the next could seem unbearable. There's nothing to do about that except appreciate the peaceful times and learn from the tumult that inevitably befalls every one of us.
No one is expected to always keep their head up through dark moments. Conversely, no one has to cherish every second of non-tragic times. We all just have to remember that life goes on no matter what. And we will go on with it.
Sunday, August 31, 2014
Tuesday, August 12, 2014
leave a little light on
It seems to me that the most wonderful people never see their own worth. They hide their brilliance behind insecurity and confusion. They doubt their talents and social abilities. They constantly tear themselves down, while at the same time inspiring and caring for others.
The most beautiful souls are often the most tortured. These are the people who stay awake far past midnight, worrying about things both in and out of their control. These are the people who are there for everyone else but can't find a way to be there for themselves. These are the people always saying "sorry" when they don't need to.
But you wouldn't necessarily know that. Because everyone does their best to mask their insecurities. Some people use physical aspects like makeup or clothing. Others use humor or aggression. Everyone has a soul toupee- some people's are just less obvious.
I have some truly fantastic people in my life, and half of them may never really believe that they are as wonderful as they are. Some don't have confidence in their exceptional talents, despite loads of evidence to the contrary. Some don't realize how valuable their caring and friendship is to others. Some simply can't see how worthy they are of respecting themselves. To me, seeing someone who doesn't respect themselves as much as they respect others is the saddest thing in the world.
Insecurity comes from many places, but once it's there it's really hard to change. Regardless of how many times someone tries to tell you how talented or beautiful or smart you are, chances are your opinion of yourself won't change.
Certainly, modesty is an important virtue, but humility should come a sense of reality. You have to be honest with yourself, even if that means admitting that you are an extraordinary human being in the eyes of others.
No matter how insecure you are, you have to leave a little room to forgive yourself. You can't deem yourself a bad person based on a single mistake. You can't continue to believe that you are untalented or unworthy. You can't cheat yourself out of opportunity based on an overwhelming fear of rejection, however valid that fear may seem.
You can't believe that you are going to hurt everyone in your life simply because you can't stop pushing away from yourself. Leave yourself just a portion of the hope you have for others, please. Because the people who love and understand you only hope that you learn to quiet your insecurities and treat yourself with the same respect you give others.
The most beautiful souls are often the most tortured. These are the people who stay awake far past midnight, worrying about things both in and out of their control. These are the people who are there for everyone else but can't find a way to be there for themselves. These are the people always saying "sorry" when they don't need to.
But you wouldn't necessarily know that. Because everyone does their best to mask their insecurities. Some people use physical aspects like makeup or clothing. Others use humor or aggression. Everyone has a soul toupee- some people's are just less obvious.
I have some truly fantastic people in my life, and half of them may never really believe that they are as wonderful as they are. Some don't have confidence in their exceptional talents, despite loads of evidence to the contrary. Some don't realize how valuable their caring and friendship is to others. Some simply can't see how worthy they are of respecting themselves. To me, seeing someone who doesn't respect themselves as much as they respect others is the saddest thing in the world.
Insecurity comes from many places, but once it's there it's really hard to change. Regardless of how many times someone tries to tell you how talented or beautiful or smart you are, chances are your opinion of yourself won't change.
Certainly, modesty is an important virtue, but humility should come a sense of reality. You have to be honest with yourself, even if that means admitting that you are an extraordinary human being in the eyes of others.
No matter how insecure you are, you have to leave a little room to forgive yourself. You can't deem yourself a bad person based on a single mistake. You can't continue to believe that you are untalented or unworthy. You can't cheat yourself out of opportunity based on an overwhelming fear of rejection, however valid that fear may seem.
You can't believe that you are going to hurt everyone in your life simply because you can't stop pushing away from yourself. Leave yourself just a portion of the hope you have for others, please. Because the people who love and understand you only hope that you learn to quiet your insecurities and treat yourself with the same respect you give others.
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